Sunday, April 10, 2011

Change and Control?

Change and Control?  For some reason, I've had these two things going around and around in my mind lately.  I am a person who hates change and loves control.  Am I a control freak?  Probably!  I dislike that aspect of my personality, but I have to acknowledge that it is definitely one of my faults. 

I'm coming to realize that change and control are really different sides of the same coin.  Change frightens me and I try to control the events of my life so that I don't have to deal with it.  It never works!

I want to embrace change, to be able to say to myself that change is usually a good thing and that, when it's not good, I can deal with it.  The truth is, when change is not good, I'm forced to deal with it.  After all, what's the alternative?  I either deal with it and give up control, or spend a lot of time depressed and angry, fighting change.

I wonder if others have this problem.  I think it's probably pretty commonplace.  I would love to hear what you have to say about change and control in your own life.  Any good ideas for me?

I know that my faith and my nature battle over these two things constantly.

I pray that faith will win.  In spite of my nature and in spite of my nurture, faith has to overcome!

Doesn't it?


  1. Personally, I like change that I initiate. Probably because those changes are things I want to see change and have some power to implement. Also, self-initiated changes are almost always positive changes, which epitomize the adage, “I love it when a plan comes together.”

    Fortunately, I come to terms with my nature and faith. I have faith in my nature, which has held me in good stead over the last seven decades. As I said in my essay (What I Suspect…) “I believe only two things. I know nothing for sure. I suspect a lot.” Those suspicions are what spice up my life, keep it interesting, and let me face the future with a sense of awe and have faith that we are experiencing the grandest venture a living thing can experience—sentience and sapience. That’s called waxing a bit philosophical. Enjoyed your blogs! Thought-provoking.

    Keep smiling, Don.

  2. Don,
    I guess I did leave out the fact that I, too, like change that I initiate. My Blog would have been more complete with that statement.

    Thanks for keeping me honest! :-)

  3. Nothing's up, Sweetie! These subjects were just on my mind today.